Because you and your other team leaders didn't sign up to be emotional guidance counselors. When conflicts involve deep emotional wounds, "Do-It-Yourself" interventions often make matters worse. It's like trying to perform surgery with a butter knife. It will likely cause more harm than good . . . because the tool itself is the problem

Show them the numbers. The cost of professional mediation is always less than the cost of unresolved conflicts. Say that mediation will cost around “$X,” and replacing people costs “Y” times their annual salary. And litigation typically begins around “$Z,” even before a negotiated settlement or verdict is reached. Lastly, don't forget the missed targets and deadlines, as well as the damage to workplace culture.

Trying to be the hero. Most are very competent in handling their job's basic requirements. But when conflicts involve deep emotional wounds or firmly held values and beliefs, "Do-It-Yourself" interventions often make matters worse. It's like trying to perform surgery with a butter knife. It will cause more harm than good . . . because the tool itself is a problem.

Don’t think of me like an emergency room doctor who only shows up after the damage is done, patches you up, and sends you home, hoping it won't happen again. Instead, I offer interrelated services covering all stages of treatment . . . conflict prevention/resolution workshops, individual coaching, facilitated team discussions, as well as mediation.

Give them tools and training, then hold them accountable. Make conflict prevention and resolution part of their performance reviews.

Begin by identifying and managing conflicts before they become crises. Develop early warning and de-escalation systems to free you from firefighting. In other words, show them that you’re looking ahead.

This is where most organizations screw up royally. They think talent excuses toxicity. So toxic high performers kill morale and drive away other high performers. My one-on-one coaching understands that "prima donnas" require a different approach. It's not about changing them. It's about helping them want to change themselves. And trust me, it took me many years to get good at just that.

To get the ball rolling, I offer same-day strategy calls for urgent situations. Simple conflicts often resolve within one to two weeks. Complex cases involving deep relationship damage and bystander casualties usually take longer. However, in either case, you should see immediate de-escalation once my process begins.

Speed depends on how willing people are to do the emotional work. I've resolved decade-long conflicts in single sessions when both parties were ready to move forward; however, that’s not the norm. But remember, moving too quickly is like picking fruit before it's ripe. It will be hard, sour, and indigestible.

I don't track my success rate, but I consider these three metrics: 1. Resolution -- Written agreement signed, 2. Repair -- Professional working relationship restored, and 3. Durability -- No repeat conflicts within 12 months. While those metrics are important, here's what matters most: My clients consistently tell me they wish they'd called me sooner. Early intervention saves time, money, and emotional exhaustion.

Absolutely, but let's be clear about roles. I'm not an attorney, so I don’t give legal advice. However, my 30-plus years in employment mediation mean I understand when legal boundaries are being crossed. And my approach usually prevents litigation by addressing root causes early. I also work collaboratively with in-house legal counsel when needed.

Absolutely. I conduct almost all my work via Zoom conference meetings.